Don’t let dark cloud ruin your plans

Posted on January 24, 2012 by admin

1171397 jumping girl Don’t let dark cloud ruin your plansYou feel so down and alone due to the recent down fall you experienced. But don’t let the dark cloud ruin your plans of succeeding. Yes, it is unfortunate that the society is obsessed with success and achievement. Experiencing failure can make you feel like the worst thing that could ever happen to you. The reality is that failure is commonplace it can be overcome and you can push yourself through more successful endeavors in the future.

Disappointment, defeat, and despair are some of the tools God uses to show us the way. When we least expect it, life sets us a challenge to test our courage and willingness to change; at such a moment, there is no point in pretending that nothing has happened or in saying that we are not ready. The challenge will not wait. Life does not look back. A week is more than enough time for us to decide whether or not to accept our destiny.

Life’s hard knocks are as common as life’s success knocks. To expect the process of living to always be smooth sailing is to invite a lack of realism into your life. It happens to the best of us. Failure helps to create balance in your life and presents an opportunity for personal growth. Accepting the inevitability that things won’t always go your way is an important part of avoiding becoming bitter and twisted, or of preventing yourself from simply resting on your laurels and never pushing further to realize your full potential.

Successful people have deep faith, that strong belief of the possibility of their dreams to exist regardless of what the other people will say and the circumstances that they will face.  The two worst strategic mistakes to make are acting prematurely and letting an opportunity slip. In order to avoid this, the warrior treats each situation as if it was unique and never resorts to formula, recipes or other people’s opinions.

There is suffering in life, and there are defeats. No one can avoid them. But it’s better to lose some of the battles in the struggles for your dreams than to be defeated without ever knowing what you’re fighting for. Even where a failure cannot be retrieved, there is always something to be learned from it. Learn from it and let go of it.

The future is still clear and you still have a long way to go. Go out and try other companies, show them what you got. After all you deserve to be with the best firm in town, much better than the ones who rejected you.

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It Really Isn’t Just About You

Posted on January 10, 2012 by admin

653183 coffee shop kenson 41 It Really Isn’t Just About YouThe feeling of rejection when hearing you didn’t make it to the final list does sound like the last thing on earth you want to experience. It is true that you have spent many months, weeks and hours over preparation and managing the interview process and you feel dejected and withdrawn when not getting a favorable response but time spent in mourning is a time wasted.

Much like love, getting a job is about making a good match. You, the candidate, must match the job better than anyone else the company considered. Exactness is what hiring managers are looking for. Above all, timing matters most in every event in life.

There are times in our lives when we are rejected simply because of timing. Some rejections have nothing to do with us. So if you got turned down, do not second guess that you are no good or that no one likes you. It may just be a question of timing!

Another thing, if you’re not a strong enough candidate, they won’t hire you because you won’t be able to do the job. If you’re too strong a candidate, they won’t try to hire you because you might want too much money or you’ll leave at the first opportunity.

I took the first few rejections personally, especially for those jobs I thought I could land. I am convinced I got the thing they are looking for. After all, I gave my best performance and enjoyed a wonderful rapport with the interviewer.

However, taking it personally just gave me headaches. I understand that whether you are used to rejection or not, being told you’re not good enough hurts. You need to be strong enough to take the knocks and learn from them.

Interviewers and interview processes aren’t perfect. It can be easy to be overawed by the men and women who sit at the other side of the interview table. Yes, they’re big shots, they’re successful, but they’re… only humans too. And as such can make mistakes, and have their own likes, dislikes and foibles. They may have a set person-type in mind that you just don’t fit. Of course there’s no way of knowing these things, but just take it on the chin and move on.

There could be a thousand reasons why you didn’t get the job, and many of them may have nothing to do with your interview performance.  They could range from the practical to the illogical.  For example, they may have decided to cancel the job position due to a bad economy, or they are looking for someone with an MBA.  Or maybe the hiring manager was having a bad day.  Even if the hiring manager or recruiter tells you specifically why they didn’t give you a job offer, there could be 10 other reasons why they choose someone else.  So don’t torture yourself.

It can be hard to think positively when you have been rejected, but try to turn the tables on this. If someone declines your offer for a social event, think about all the times when you have said no to others as well. Also, sometimes, getting rejected is a blessing in disguise. It may provide you with the space for something bigger that is about to happen!

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Best friends called failure and rejection

Posted on January 3, 2012 by admin


349451 climbing 1 Best friends called failure and rejection
After graduation from college or university, you were excited and optimistic of your chosen professional career ahead of you. You could just feel the pressure and excitement of landing a job that really want. You have exerted your best effort in your preparations to find a job of your dream but ended being rejected several times from the moment you started looking for your dream job. You felt crushed to the ground thinking there’s no more hope for you. The worst is you look down on yourself because of that experienced. To some people, such experiences can cause fear to try once again. Frustration and discouragement may come into your heart and thoughts. You would try to ask yourself why you always failed from all the interviews. Then negative thoughts will begin to overcome your rational thinking. Your emotions will begin to rule over you.  Then you begin to get depress and stress.

I have good news for you! Everybody experience failure and rejection.  Have you ever known a person who became well known and successful throughout history that has not experienced failure in their lives? History reveals that most famous and successful people in the world have gone through series of failure and rejections. Therefore, you should accept failure and rejection as friends of success. Treat failure and reject not as enemy but friends. Use them as the stepping stone in reaching your goals in life. Failure should let you grow personally. Failure and rejection are part of life. You must keep on moving on.

How failure and rejection can help you grow? You may reflect on the following principles:

  1. Learn from your past failures. People who failed so many times prior to their success are the ones who stayed in the long run. They are the one who stood up all sorts of test of life. They stood up when the going gets tough. Keep learning from your mistakes and failures. Evaluate why you failed to an interview and move on. Try another one. If your fail again, reflect and learn from it then try another one. My point here is, you are moving forward one step at a time towards your goal of achieving your dream job. The key here is, DON’T GIVE UP!
  2. Your yesterday will not always be the same as today. You may experience the same failure or rejection today, it doesn’t mean that you will experience the same tomorrow. I believe there will always be an improvement until you get what you really want.
  3. Don’t take rejection personally. Don’t take it too personal my friend. The reason you feel hurt is that you have taken it personally. Your expectation was not granted. You didn’t get what you want. What happen to you if you treat rejection too personal? Most probably you will look down on yourself and begin to doubt on your abilities. Just treat it a part of life. Let me say it again, “Everybody is experiencing it!”
  4. Be optimistic for your future. There’s always a light ahead of you. Keep believing in yourself and in your abilities. You can still be the best employee that a company is looking for. Always think positive!

 

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Don’t curse failure

Posted on November 21, 2011 by admin

1327383 649301331 Don’t curse failureYes, it’s sad that you fail to get your desired result. However it’s not good to feel so much pain and curse failure. You still have a bigger chance to uplift and move on to plan b. You must try to ascertain the cause responsible for it.

Instead of brooding over failures, you should objectively analyze the reason in order to improve the chance of success in a subsequent effort. Rejection in a job interview occasional occurs. But these failures should not diminish your enthusiasm and devotion. They should be your stepping stones for eventual success.

Leave the rejection behind, it is considered to be part of your past. Some people are in the habit of brooding over the past. This is most undesirable. If your mind is caught in repression and problems of the past, you will spoil your present as well as the future.

This is not to say that you should not learn from what just happened. Remember that it is over and the future is still unknown. It is the present which should be taken care of according to your ability. If you live the present well, then the future too will be good.

You must develop a positive outlook about your life. Thoughts have great power. If you are always thinking negatively and are obsessed by worry and anxiety over what happened, you are distancing yourself from success. It is extremely necessary to have positive thoughts in whatever problem you face.

Your talented, it’s just that the job is not for you. Don’t let it ruined and shattered your dreams. It is very important for a person who is ambitious and aspiring to attain success in life to know what he is going to do about the blunder.

You must move on and formulate your plan b. It must be borne in mind that nothing can take a form unless it has been first projected in one’s consciousness. You should strive to achieve your goal within a specified period. This must be followed by laying down the procedure for achieving your new target. There are still other opportunities that would come your way and you must be ready to take new steps.

Its human nature to often want immediate results but life is not about the destination but more about the journey. The attainment of your goals will come naturally as you solidify your thoughts, those thoughts becoming your actions, and the results of those actions manifesting into an outcome in your physical reality. Never curse failure instead learn from it.

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Questions that lead to underlying truth

Posted on October 31, 2011 by admin

1126739 715273111 Questions that lead to underlying truthDid you ever wonder why interviewer asked a certain question which you think irrelevant to the job opening? Did you have a doubt on the intelligence of the hiring personnel due to the questions being asked?

There are times where we sometimes wonder why during an interview a simple question like; “Describe yourself.” Is being given to an applicant regardless of job position they are applying for and educational attainment they had acquired. Sometimes, some applicants are getting insulted expecting more complicated questions yet receiving an easy one.  We could sometimes say that the question should not be asked in the interview since they can read almost all the information they want to know in the resume that was in them beforehand. It is a waste of time and effort. But the truth of the matter is, underlying those simple questions are the more complicated questions which are sometimes considered illegal if asked directly since that includes private issues. Or there are instances where out of answering those simple questions, some skill tests are being taken indirectly.

Here are some basic and simple questions that would serve as a pass to enter the company.

Describe yourself; maybe the interviewer wants to know a thing about you which may be different to what was written in the resume. That could be possible. But this kind of question was given to test an applicant’s spontaneity and sometimes his grammar and ability to speak the language well. There is no right or wrong answer here. Everything is acceptable as long as you don’t express yourself as a threat to anyone.

How do you measure your career right now? Of course, it is obvious that you are not happy that is why you are applying for a new job. The truth is, the interviewer wants to test your self-esteem. How you perceive yourself will definitely affect the quality of your performance so it is important for the hiring personnel to know whether you have self confidence or don’t.

Did you have a difficult situation in the past and how did you handle it? It is not that the interviewer wants a peek in to your personal life, the question was given to gauge your tolerance on conflicts and whether you are quick in thinking a logical approach to resolve the problem.

What are your weaknesses and strengths? Of course the interviewer expects some dishonesty and a little self-righteousness in this part. But they are not really concerned with that, the real purpose of the kind of question is to determine whether you are open to changes or you’ll be an arrogant employee who will act as an “all knowing person”.

There are times where we look at things as unnecessary and stupid  but underneath those are the most important part or test which we are not aware could either bring us to the position or escort us outside the building. It doesn’t matter if the question is relevant or not, what matters is the way you answer it and how quick to give it.

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